COUPLES THERAPY

If you are experiencing the same conflict over and over again, or if you are feeling angry or betrayed, or feel distant from your partner, it is likely that you are feeling somewhat hopeless about your relationship.

Trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (developed by Sue Johnson based on the new attachment science of relationships as described in her book Love Sense), I work with the emotion in the room and teach couples how to change their destructive patterns to create new ways of engaging with each other which increases your emotional connection and communication leading to more intimacy and happiness.

You and your partner will discover your negative cycle that keeps you stuck. Often clients will come to therapy with a specific issue like child rearing or money, but what I find is, no matter the content, the structure of their negative cycle is the same. Once couples can identify their cycle, the pattern becomes the enemy rather than each other. Then couples can learn new patterns of emotional engagement and ways to communicate that will increase connection. Partners go from blaming each other to being able to stop the argument and to reach for their partner when they are triggered and simply ask their partner for what they need.